I just want to double check. There are several instances of mate bonds not being realised by both genders until a certain moment. Someone said at one point that is is near impossible for a male to ignore a mate bond, but females can. Do mate bonds not snap into place once the mates meet? Kallias and his mate didn't know for years, Tamlin was expecting his and Feyre's and it never came, Rhys didn't know until Feyre became a high Fae. It just seems like an instantaneous occurrence to me, a mate bond.